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Question: Is it allowed in islam if i spend my husband's money on my kids and household items ( grocery )and tell.him later? My husband often says what garbage u have brought.

You are not allowed to take your husband’s money without his permission – as long as he provides for you and your children in reasonable limits.

If, however, he is stingy and what he gives is not sufficient, then you may take and spend it on your children and household expenses. I understand that they are his children, and not from your previous marriage. If they are not his children, then he is not required to support them unless he agreed to do so in the marriage contract.

If the husband is stingy in providing for his wife, then the Prophet (peace be upon him) has allowed a wife to take from her husband’s money as long as she is not doing so in excess for wastefulness is a grievous sin. When Hind, the wife of Abu Sufyan complained to the Prophet (peace be upon him) that her husband is stingy in providing for the expenses of the family and children, he told her: “Take from his money within the fair measure.” (Reported by Bukhari)

Therefore, as a Muslimah you may do well to ask the following questions:

Can I justify this spending if I were called to account before Allah?

If you feel confident, then you should have no hesitation in spending the money on the necessary expenses. For by refusing to pay for them your husband is the one who will be guilty before Allah. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “It is a grave sin for a man to neglect in providing for his family.” (Reported by Muslim).

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