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Question: Assalamu Alaikum Let me get straight to the point.I have been married past 14 years now and we have no children though all our reports are normal (both of us). My wifes brother has a daughter and he is younger in age he used to feel bad about this and finally took some strenght and spoke to me that they will give birth to a new born and will hand it over to us. His wife is pregnant now.It was agreed between us him his family and the family of his wife and they are also very happy to give us the baby they donot want a new child for themselves as they said we are happy with one child. Is this allowed as per Islam? Now the thing is that his wife is due in this month for delivery and we have no option for the same. But then too please let me know in the light of Islam.Jazak Allah Khair.Kamil
Answer:

I pray to Allah to bless both of you with the gift of children. Remember Allah has power over all things, and nothing happens in the universe without His will.

Allah says in the Qur’an:

“Allah’s alone is the sovereignty over the heavens and the earth. He creates whatever He wills: He bestows the gift of female offspring on whomever He wills, and the gift of male offspring on whomever He wills; or He gives both male and female [to whomever He wills], and causes to be barren whomever He wills: for, verily, He is all-knowing, infinite in His power.” (Qur’an: 42: 49-50).

So, never stop praying to Allah. I would urge both of you to practice constancy in istighfaar. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever practices istighfaar consistently, Allah will open doors for him and facilitate things for him/her in ways they could never imagine.”

I know women who were almost on the verge of despair – after all medical interventions – miraculously giving birth to more than one children. So, never give up istighfaar; it may open doors you could not imagine.

You may still adopt the child.  You should prefer to adopt the baby before the period of weaning. Your wife should be induced lactate so that she can breastfeed the baby which will ensure bonding and motherly attachment. Through breastfeeding, she becomes a milk mother for the baby, and a mahram relationship is established between the child and your wife as well as her children -  if Allah gifts her with own biological children. 

So, you can go ahead and adopt the child soon after the baby is born and if your wife can be induced to lactate to breastfeed the baby that would be ideal.

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