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Question: Is it obligatory for me to continue to help my healthy brother who doesn't try to help himself progress?

While we are encouraged to help our brothers and sisters if they are poor or unable to care for themselves, we are not allowed spoil them. The best help you can give a brother is to teach him how to help himself. Otherwise, we will only be encouraging sloth and laziness.

The Prophet, peace be upon him, taught us to pray to Allah against sloth and laziness. ööAs the saying goes: ‘’Give a person a fish, you feed him for a day; teach a person how to fish, you feed him forever.” This is the same lesson our Prophet, peace be upon him, taught us when he told one of his companions, “It is better for you to get some rope, go to the forest, gather firewood and sell it. Thus, you can make a living for yourself rather than depend on others!” (Reported by Bukhari and others).

 He also said, “No one can eat a better meal than that which he earns through the sweat of his own labour!” (Reported by Imam Ahmad and others). He further said, “One who works hard to earn a living to maintain himself and his family is, indeed, striving in the path of Allah!” (Reported by Tabarani and others).

Therefore, you should not abandon your brother. You might consider getting him some professional help; he would likely benefit from counseling to wean him off of his existing lifestyle. This is better than doling out handouts.

We should regularly pray in the manner of our beloved Prophet, peace be upon him, “O Allah, make us self-sufficient with what You have declared as lawful for us so that we do not need to turn to what You have made unlawful for us; make us self-sufficient with Your favour so that we need not look to favour of others, and make us self-sufficient with Your obedience so that we do not need to disobey You.”

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