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Question: Asalaamua'likum. I would like a Scholarly opinion insha'allah - may Allah swt reward your efforts and grant you jannah. My husband is very pious mash'Allah and I am trying to improve in my practise of Islam (I am a revert) I try to cover myself appropriately and wear niqab outside of the house most of the time. My husband feels it is a higher/advanced level of adab to also wear a headcovering (eg scarf) at home. As he has taqwa he feels doing so is more modest and brings greater blessings into the home through one's modesty. He suggests (never enforces alhamduillah for his good character) that I should wear headcovering even in seclusion with no visitors or non-mahrams. I have no objections to doing this if evidence or proof of this is presented as I wish to obey my husband. From my studies I have found no evidence of women being required or even recommended to keep on hijab at home. My husband says I will not find evidence of this because it is adab and therefore more subtle - not from Quran and Sunnah. My husband is from Pakistan and I am concerned that this is actually a cultural practice and that there is no recommendation/benefit from my doing so. I am happy to do it to please him but I am equally very keen to follow true Islam without cultural norms being mistaken for such. Could you please clarify if covering at home is more inline with the principle of 'haya? If not will I be sinning if I refuse? (not out of stubboness rather the intent to avoid cultural practices or innovation in deen) Jazakha'Allah khair Wa'alikum wa salaam barak Allah feek. Revert sister
Answer:

The  ideal attire for married women, when they are alone with their husbands, is to be without hijab. This is the way the wives of the Prophet carried around in their own private quarters; they were only told to wear hijab in the presence of strangers. So for your husband  to insist that you wear hijab at home even though there is no one except your husband around is indeed a cultural practice; which has nothing to do with the haya (modesty) that we are to keep. We can never be expected to be more pious than the Prophet and his wives who are our role models (as they are the mothers of the faithful). Why do we call them our mothers?  They are only our spiritual mothers, and we are to learn such etiquettes, which cannot be learned from anyone else from them. So let your husband learn to recognize the pure teachings of Islam as distinct from cultural practice, which may or may not be sanctioned by Islam.

By insisting that you do this, he is restricting your right to have your own free space-- a legitimate human need that no husband should deprive his wife of.

The Prophet said, "leave the religion as I have left it: The people before you perished because of their attitude of rigidity and introducing too many restrictions in religion, and thus leaving the simple path of their prophets."

 

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