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Question: Asalamu Alaikum scholar I am a high school student that lives in the United States. I am exposed to many influences and a lot of pressure at school. I would like to stay close to a Muslim community and go the Muslim Youth center and attend lectures. The idea is that my parents don't think that some of the people there are ok. I feel like they seem to want me isolated and away. My parents are good Muslims but they seem to want me to be away out of troubles. I was supposed to be wearing the hijab a couple of years ago but i didn't. At that time i wasn't really aware of life. Then i was invited by a friend to go to this Islamic lecture. I was really inspired i saw a new meaning to life. Then i started getting closer to Allah. I wanted to wear the hijab but my parents told me to wait. We had a couple of arguments and i decided to wait a while. The hijab isn't really the issue i am certain that inshaa allah i will wear the hijab anytime soon and i won't listen to anyone. The case is that i feel that my relationship with god is being stressed. In the last couple of Years i went to a private islamic school. The environment was beautiful. Now i go to public school and its horrible. Not only is it the school also my parents they have preventing from going to lessons and lectures. I also don't have any good Muslim friends that remind me of Allah and help me go through all this. I feel lost in every way. There isn't help from anywhere. Some times i am close to Allah and a lot of times i am not. The past year i have been doing horrible sins. I am really tired of everything and i honestly don't know what to do. I feel like i am losing myself. I think I am a hopeless case. The idea is that i don't want to be like this but i just don't know what to do. Please help me!
Answer:

I really empathize with your situation and pray to Allah to grant you strength and courage to remain steadfast and protect you against all corrosive influences that cause the death of your spiritual heart. If you keep clinging to Allah and seek comfort from Him, He will surely be guiding you through this most critical phase of your life. I urge you to be patient and never do anything rash, but move carefully and cautiously.

What you are facing is a test of faith. You need to summon all the courage and mobilize all of your spiritual resources to remain steadfast in your faith. Try to have a free and frank discussion with your parents; you tell me they are good Muslims; if they are true to their faith, they would certainly understand the dilemma you are facing in struggling to keep your faith intact in the midst of the challenges you are up against. If they are not cooperative,  don't react to them; wait until you are able to stand on your own feet when you can decide for yourself as a mature adult.

In the meantime, here are some tips for you to follow on a daily basis:

1) Establish regular salah and while praying to make sure to turn your heart to Allah, seeking strength from Him;

2) Spend at least a few minutes after fajr in dhikr and du'as; I urge you to read some of the morning supplications of the Prophet, and then seek Allah's help for guidance and a blessed day ahead of you;

3) As you step out of the house, pray to Allah sincerely to protect you from all temptations and help you guard your faith, modesty and purity. Here is one of the Prophetic du'as you should say as an armour of protection: bismillaahi tawakkaltu 'ala Allaahi laa hawla walaa quwwata illaa billaahi

(In the name of Allah; I place my trust in Allah; there is no strength to resist evil, nor any strength to earn good except by the will of Allah)

4) Throughout the day as you face trials and temptations, seek refuge in Allah; repeat as often as you can the words: hasbiya Allaahu (Allah is sufficient for me). Remember the words of Allah, "I am with My servant as he/she remembers Me."

5) When you are alone or in free time, make sure to keep company with the Qur'an; make a habit of listening to it and reading and pondering its lessons;

6) Also benefit from reading good books on spiritual purification; perhaps you may do well to get the book: Purification of the Heart: Signs, Symptoms and Cures of the Spiritual Diseases of the Heart by Shailh Hamza Yusuf.

7) As you retire to bed, confess your sins to Allah and beg for His mercy; and implore Him to help you wake up to a new day free from sins and transgressions.

I pray to Allah to guide your steps, and inspire you to come closer to Him.

 

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