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Question: Is it permissible for me to hugkiss my wife while I am fasting?
Answer:

If you are reasonably certain that you will not be carried away by your desire to violate the sanctity of Ramadhaan through sexual relations by indulging in this behavior then you can do it; otherwise, it is always preferred to stay away from such activities, for, who knows, when the desire flares up and one is carried away to break the fast. One should, therefore, persuade one’s against such activities by reminding oneself of the gravity of sin involved in breaking a single day of Ramadhan fast; the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “Whoever breaks a single day of fast during the month of Ramadhaan, they may never be able to make up for it by fasting an entire year!”

Furthermore, breaking a single day of fast through sexual intercourse entails very serious penalty: One should either fast two months consecutively; if one cannot do it, then feed sixty poor people for each of fast thus broken.
A believer therefore must never be complacent about such issues if he/she is serious about their faith and afterlife.

We read in the sources that the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to kiss his wife while fasting; when asked about it, his beloved wife Aishah, may Allah be pleased with her, confirmed it, but she asked the interlocutor, “Who among you is capable of controlling his desire as the Prophet, peace be upon him, was wont of doing?”

This is why we read in the sources that the Prophet, peace be upon him, once told a person who had asked him, “Can a person who is fasting kiss his wife?” that he was not allowed to do so; while the same question was put to him by another person but he replied to him, “Yes. You can!” Explaining the discrepancy between the two answers, Ibn Abbas, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “The first person was rather a young man (who, he thought was unable to control himself) , while the second was an elderly person!” Thus the Prophet, peace be upon him, wanted to teach us that while such activities may be permissible for some, they may be unlawful for others because of their intensity of desire and their inability to restrain themselves.

In conclusion: If you are not sure of controlling yourself you should stay away from such activities while fasting.

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