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Question: I called off my engagement because the guy was abusive and short tempered. Is it wrong to leave someone for this reason? Or should i have tolerated it? and im unable to forget him and regret at times that i should have compromised.
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I cannot make a judgment for you; however, I don't think you were wrong in making this decision, for if the person is already showing signs of abusive nature and uncontrollable anger, it is not worth spending your life time with him-unless you had reasons to believe that he would be willing to go for behavior therapy or counseling and change himself.

People who are abusive and short tempered can make marriage miserable for their partners. Therefore, perhaps you should thank Allah for allowing you to see this side of his personality before it was too late.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) told us to look for sound faith and character. This person does not seem to be lacking in character.

I pray to Allah to grant you a better substitute.

 

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