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Question: Assalaamu Alaikum I am writing to you as i'm in need of some advice Insha'Allah. My brother has been married for 13 years and neither his wife or him are practicing muslims. My brother is an alcoholic who seems to hold down a full time job provide for his wife and 3 children (his wife having full control of his income) He goes beyond limits when he is drunk he has been in two car accidents and been beaten up to the extent that his head was cut open broken teeth bruises all whilst under the influence. His wife is very money orientated and materialistic. My brother was never like this before he was married. He causes chaos within the home and outside which is upsetting for my parents who are very old and my father has recently recovered from a life threatening situation Alhamdulillah. I always pray for my brother that may Akkah SWT give him guidance. I really feel for my nieces and nephew who have to face this situation on a daily basis. My question to you is... Can I get involved to the point where i can get relevant services involved to do what is best for the children as i feel both parents are being very selfish. And another question which has been raised is that do you think there is any chance of some kind of black magic having been performed as the situation just keeps on getting worse. This sister would really appreciate some help if you think feasible.May Allah SWT grant you success and reward you for your efforts Insha'AllahJazaak'Allah Khair
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I pray to Allah to guide your brother and your sister-in-law and bless your nieces and nephew to be saved from this hellish life.

There is no need to place the blame on black magic or influence of jinn or anyone else for the situation you have described. It is all due to drinking and turning away from the remembrance of Allah. Allah said that drinking is a vice, and those who wish to prosper must shun it. Thus, we read, "

And furthermore, you already said they do not pray or establish the remembrance of Allah; and Allah says, "O YOU who have attained to faith! Intoxicants, and games of chance, and idolatrous practices, and the divining of the future are but a loathsome evil of Satan's doing:' shun it, then, so that you might attain to a happy state!" (Qur'an: 5:90).

Furthermore, as we are told, time and again, in the Qur'an, there cannot be any true peace or salvation except through remembrance of Allah. It is clear that your brother and his wife has turned away from it; so, what else could they expect, when Allah says, "But as for him who shall turn away from remembering Me-his shall be a hellish life and on the Day of Resurrection We shall raise him up blind." (Qur'an: 20:124)

Therefore, as adults, if they wish to gain peace of mind and improve their situation, they need to be willing to change, and in order for them to do that they need to be self-motivated. So, the best advice you can give them is to convince them to go for counseling.

As for the children, they need to be saved from this highly destructive atmosphere, which, I am sure, is taking a toll on their emotional and spiritual health. So, you need to do everything you can to get them the necessary help. You should do that, without further delay.

You may also read the following answer on renewing faith.

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